Gay. Straight. Lesbian. Bisexual. Pansexual. Transgender. Transsexual. Questioning. Queer. Intersex. Words often used to describe an individual’s sexual orientation, sexuality and desires. Human sexuality is defined on Wikipedia as:
“how people experience the erotic and express themselves as sexual beings; the awareness of themselves as males or females; the capacity they have for erotic experiences and responses.”
It’s that feeling of butterflies in your stomach when you see that person in your class you fancy. Or the way a woman feels when she adorns a pair of 4 inch louboutin heels and her favorite mauve lipstick. Or even the sense of power when a man or woman fixes an automobile that has been continuously breaking down every 5 miles. Sexuality is apart of who we are– something inherent, pure instinct.
In the definition also Wikipedia defines sexuality as “the awareness of the individual as male or female” yet there are some individuals that choose to identify as neither but prefer to identify as genderqueer, a term commonly used to describe a person who feels his or her gender does not fit into socially constructed norms and is therefore neither male or female.
Where ever we are, as we grow as individuals, there is an expectation to define ourselves as something. A name for example. The profession we want to be.The same is for our sexuality and gender. This form of definition starts with an introduction when we first meet someone.
” What is he? Gay? Straight?”
“Is that a male or a female?”
In this society, we are told have to be one or the another. There’s no room for in between. But. What if I were to say to you that sexuality is so much more? That sexuality isn’t black and white but grey. Why must we box ourselves into a label? Sexuality could be a fluid notion.
A woman may admire mostly women but fancy a male from time to time. A man may admire women but suddenly meets one male who throws him off completely. Haven’t we seen this in works of literature before? Shakespeare’s Twelfth Night ring a bell? A woman dressed as a man and another man subsequently fell for her thinking she was a man which sent him into confusion. He did fall for a woman but did he know that?
The purpose of this blog is not to sway anyone from what you you choose to believe. But to shed light on another view and perhaps to inspire and aid someone or any QC student who feels alone, questioning or is filled with unanswered questions but doesn’t know who to ask. Such ends blog entry one.
-Much love,
Your friendly Bistander.
Bistander: (n) 1. bystander: an observer; an onlooker observing their surroundings.
(n) 2. Bi-Stander: a bisexual, pansexual site that stands against misogynistic, racist, anti-gay practices.
