Okay, most of you people out there are going to one day get married and have kids..keep the world going, a wonderful and beautiful thing. Now, being a parent comes with the obvious responsibilities: keep your kid safe, support them financially and emotionally yada yada yada…There’s one pitfall that most if not all parents are not consciously aware of that they could fall into- In Alice Miller’s book The Drama of the Gifted Child she talks about it extensively-so what is it…drumrolll….if you give your child the idea that he has to protect you emotionally, he is there to make you happier, and that you’re not there for them, such a subtle thing that I’ll repeat it-you give your child the idea that he’s there to make YOU happy, he will not develop his own identity. Now, most kids cry as babies and are needy and if a parent suddenly sees a two year old smiling at them all the time and always helping them with the other children you think “wow, I’m blessed with an angel”-an angel of death-you’re killing your child. Of course it’s good to be well behaved but the perfect child who breezes through elementary and even high school by just pleasing others and not having a solid sense of self never misbehaving and testing limits won’t make it in the world. And will cost you a lot of therapy money… Okay, just read two books yesterday, I’m getting into memoirs now, they’re so real and raw- read Girl Interupted, movie was way better and On Losing Everything-what a writer, and what a life!!! If you think your parents are bad…youch

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