This post is to those people who have tried to help me with tactics like those below.

How do you cure someone who is depressed? I don’t have the answer, as I am someone who suffers from major depression ultimately stemming from this dissociative horror and have yet to find the cure. But I do know what doesn’t work and makes a person feel worse. Saying things like “you have so much”, “You’re doing this because there is some benefit for you”, You are lazy” and other such nonsense just alienates a person further, makes them feel guiltier and causes further friction between the depressed person and the one trying to help them.

Despite the myth, depression is not always curable through drugs. A person who can’t cope with a spouse’s death doesn’t always magically feel better after taking 120 milligrams of prozac for thirty days. .

To those people who think they can solve other people’s problems when their own lives are total chaos I say forget you!  Depression can be helped with the help of a genuinely empathetic person that you have an extremely good personal connection with who can guide you in the right path-then a person can independently-underline that word!! take the steps towards potentially getting cured. But it isn’t science. People aren’t machines that when we push the right buttons and turn the screws the correct way they do whatever they’re supposed to. We are all so complex and deep, every one of us, that fixing someone with a deeply rooted problem takes so much. Perhaps with time, hard work, and extreme courage a person can make tremendous strides. And there are those rare cases where a person just suddenly snaps out of it. however, the same way that some cancer patients don’t get better despite all our advances in medicine and chemotherapy and the billions of dollars spent in research and the multitude of drug trials, mental illness can be just as stubborn. There isn’t always a cure, and although I do agree that a persons willpower and determination make a huge impact in their overall eventual outcome it doesn’t automatically guarantee good results. I believe that God works in mysterious ways, suffering comes to some people that we just can’t always explain rationally and God has decided they for whatever reason which is ultimately for the persons good, because everything he does is for our benefit, yet we are mere mortals who can’t comprehend it and is beyond the scope of our relatively puny brainpower. Yeah, some people grow from hard times but for the people that don’t get better what was the point? For the mother who loses her child at a young age, is there a simple answer?

My main problem with mental illness (besides for the illness itself which is hell enough obviously) is there is very little sympathy. If I were neurologically damaged people wouldn’t judge me saying why aren’t you doing all the things you used to do. Why are you so lethargic and slow when you used to be the star basketball player who got straight A’s and was among the most popular kids in class? Instead their would be compassion and teamwork to try to make the best of the situation and work around the problem and do whatever can be done.

Stephen Hawking is looked up to as the quintessential fighter and hero for being able to maintain a life just through  despite being very limited due to AlS and other diseases. He is an inspiration to me and millions of others. Do people judge him for not running around like he used to? emphatic NO! Do they expect him to get better physically by attitude alone?

Perhaps that’s the problem-ultimately, many/most mental illnesses can be cured or managed to some degree. The one I have, depersonalization disorder, is curable completely if you get lucky and can be managed somewhat as is evidenced by the fact that I am in college though my functioning is nowhere close to where it could be if I was well. But I don’t have the magic switch. You don’t have it. Only God does, and to say that I or you hold it is to play God and idiotic and psychotic and if you say you can heal it perhaps that makes you mentally ill b/c you’re claiming to be God, and I’ve met people who claim they are God but that was in the psych ward so is that where you are headed???